Yeah, I know, they're really cute. And you two feel really strongly for each other, and life is great, and blah blah blah. That's all fine and good, and a happy relationship is undeniably one of the best feelings and situations you can be in. But most good things come at a cost.
And the cost is usually a pretty significant imbalance in your life, where time is skewed toward your relationship, as opposed to other priorities.
There's a concept in economics called opportunity cost. For all you newbs out there who haven't taken your introductory economics course, I'll explain this lovely little concept. Opportunity cost is the value you give up by making the choice you did. Let's apply this to a relationship scenario to illustrate.
Let's say you have two big options you are deciding between tonight - studying for the test you have tomorrow, or watching a movie with your significant other. By the way, I really hate the term "significant other", but couldn't find another term that fit well there. Anyway, by choosing to watch a movie, you are giving up the information, learning, and points on the test you could potentially be gaining from reviewing. By choosing to study, you give up the opportunity to spend time with a loved one, affection, and potentially sex. Considering the next best options with your time IS opportunity cost. By the way, that last one is a tough one to say no to.
But less is more in relationships, and no one seems to realize that.
Consider that, if you are seeing your partner more two or three times a week, that is about all you need to maintain a healthy relationship. Any more than that isn't increasing the affection or loving feelings in that relationship. A lot of people follow a train of thought that you have to talk everyday with that person, and see each other so often.
Your opportunity cost is going to be skewed if you follow that train of thought, so follow these principles, and have a happier relationship, and higher grades.
· If you're an attractive human being, then your first priority is not your significant other. If your actions demonstrate they are, then your relationship WILL fail. Guaranteed.
-Your own success is your first priority. Start taking school, your job... etc. more seriously.
· Take ONLY a few times to hangout a week (3 hangouts at most). Make these memorable, not trivial.
-No movies, or other passive, uninteresting ideas.
-Your city probably has a magazine listing daily scheduled events. These are fun, unique experiences - do them!
· Limit your texting/calling: stop sending out 100 texts a day, especially to your significant other.
-Scarcity builds attraction and a lasting relationship. They don't need to hear from you daily.
-This also leads to less distractions while studying (heck, turn off your phone while you're studying altogether).
A word of caution on all of this is that you should communicate these ideas if they are changes to how your relationship currently works. Don't just start ignoring their texts and calls without a discussion about these changes. Just saying something like this:
And the cost is usually a pretty significant imbalance in your life, where time is skewed toward your relationship, as opposed to other priorities.
There's a concept in economics called opportunity cost. For all you newbs out there who haven't taken your introductory economics course, I'll explain this lovely little concept. Opportunity cost is the value you give up by making the choice you did. Let's apply this to a relationship scenario to illustrate.
Let's say you have two big options you are deciding between tonight - studying for the test you have tomorrow, or watching a movie with your significant other. By the way, I really hate the term "significant other", but couldn't find another term that fit well there. Anyway, by choosing to watch a movie, you are giving up the information, learning, and points on the test you could potentially be gaining from reviewing. By choosing to study, you give up the opportunity to spend time with a loved one, affection, and potentially sex. Considering the next best options with your time IS opportunity cost. By the way, that last one is a tough one to say no to.
But less is more in relationships, and no one seems to realize that.
Consider that, if you are seeing your partner more two or three times a week, that is about all you need to maintain a healthy relationship. Any more than that isn't increasing the affection or loving feelings in that relationship. A lot of people follow a train of thought that you have to talk everyday with that person, and see each other so often.
Your opportunity cost is going to be skewed if you follow that train of thought, so follow these principles, and have a happier relationship, and higher grades.
· If you're an attractive human being, then your first priority is not your significant other. If your actions demonstrate they are, then your relationship WILL fail. Guaranteed.
-Your own success is your first priority. Start taking school, your job... etc. more seriously.
· Take ONLY a few times to hangout a week (3 hangouts at most). Make these memorable, not trivial.
-No movies, or other passive, uninteresting ideas.
-Your city probably has a magazine listing daily scheduled events. These are fun, unique experiences - do them!
· Limit your texting/calling: stop sending out 100 texts a day, especially to your significant other.
-Scarcity builds attraction and a lasting relationship. They don't need to hear from you daily.
-This also leads to less distractions while studying (heck, turn off your phone while you're studying altogether).
A word of caution on all of this is that you should communicate these ideas if they are changes to how your relationship currently works. Don't just start ignoring their texts and calls without a discussion about these changes. Just saying something like this:
"Baby (that's a nice gender neutral word, right?), I really enjoy all the time we spend together, and I'm glad we're together. But my grades have kinda been lacking this past semester, and I really feel like I can be doing better. I think for my academic health, and for the health of our relationship in the long-run, it would be a good idea to maybe tone down the time we spend with each other. Let's make a point to hangout 2-3 times a week, and make the best of those times, and then focus on our personal goals - schooling, future jobs... etc. - the rest of the time. If we dedicate more time to our personal goals, I think it would have a positive impact on our personal and relationship life. What do you think?"
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